Systemic constellations for individuals

Systemic constellations is a method allowing to access the root causes of our obstacles and disturbances in life, and to overcome such difficulties. At times I call the method „the shortcut to the goal“, which is not to mean that it is the easiest way, and most certainly not the only one.

Constellations show the way to the factors hidden in unconsciousness, which impact our overall condition and life situation in the most direct and profound way. At the same time, the beauty of the method lies in not only facilitating seeing and understanding what is going on, but also providing a possibility for permanent healing and change.

The creator of the Family Systemic Constellations method is Bert Hellinger. He was the first to recognize the paramount importance of the fact, that each individual constitutes a part of a larger system – typically a family system, and the powerful force exerted by that system on the individual. Being part of a system means that we are entangled in unconscious loyalties towards our living and nonliving relatives, and we carry such entanglements into our present lives. For example, we may identify with those who have been excluded or unconsciously replicate the schemes applicable to our family, in order to belong to the system. Such destructive patterns, referred to as dynamics in this method, are plenty. They may manifest themselves in various spheres of life and the constellations allow to reveal and heal them. What matters is to see our behaviour, feelings and attitudes in a wider context, which is exposed anew time and again during a constellation session. We never speculate what a given problem relates to, but we assume an attitude of openness to what gets revealed in the constellation.

We can work with any topic, whether related to health, relationships, kids, friendships, money, job, recurrent difficult patterns and situations in life, provided that in the particular sphere of life we do want and need a change, we encounter painful experiences, which we are unable to cope with or feel like we are running around in circles. A difficult situation may be a tip of the iceberg, a manifestation of a systemic dynamics  – a hidden loyalty or an unconsciously repeated pattern. It is an invitation to heal at a deeper level, as it is the problem – paradoxically – which leads to our recovery.

Who is this method for?

  • If you are ready to assume responsibility for your own life…
  • If you need change in life…
  • If it is just hard, your intimate relationship is difficult or you cannot find a partner, you have trouble with kids, at work, with your health…
  • If you feel you are a step away from success but for years have not been able to achieve it…
  • If you are under financial strain, your are indebted, money is not coming your way or „leaks“
  • If you feel stuck, blocked in a sphere of your life, you experience barriers to the flow of life energy and abundance…
  • If you try different methods, but still suffer the same or similar difficulties, if you feel you have „hit the wall“…
  • If you feel you don’t live up to your potential, you are not at peace with yourself…

… constellations may be the method best suited for you. The best way to appreciate systemic constellations, and how they can help, is simply through experience.

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Phenomenological approach in constellations

The phenomenological attitude applied in systemic constellations means that in each case, each topic is approached with a fresh view, free of opinions and judgments. Even if we are well aware of the Client’s specific problem, it is important not to apply any assumptions resulting from such knowledge into the constellation, but rather patiently wait for what gets revealed. Phenomenological approach means absolute openness to the insights which unfold during the constellation. If we judged anything or anyone, wanted to apply any own opinions or tried to prove a point, the constellation would simply not work. This feature of constellations makes them often very surprising, also for the clients themselves. As the constellation reveals causes, which have not been acknowledged by our consciousness, they may naturally evoke surprise, disbelief and sometimes even resistance.

I currently view constellations as a method reaching beyond the work with a family system (or a business/organizational one). Constellations lead the way to what is inaccessible to our consciousness, what lies at the source of the problem and is possible to be integrated at a given moment, which does not need to be a systemic entanglement only. We may dwell in the history of our ancestors, but we can as well deal with what is the cause of pain and the sense of detachment within ourselves, while still respecting the burdens of our family system. As a matter of fact, the ultimate goal of our internal work, including with the constellations method, is to achieve integration of the lost parts of ourselves and a recovery of life energy, motivation, self-confidence and trust in Life, which we have lost along the way. We are weakened and separated from living the life to the fullest by all the moments when we got stuck in the past, whether because of systemic loyalties or a personal trauma. 

At times the constellation exposes no new information, but confronts us for example with a painful experience, from which we were detached to stay away from suffering. We would then very gradually progress through the suppressed emotions, so that – once on the other side – we find relief and ease. Important to remember is that constellations conducted in a responsible way are safe, they lead us to experience only (or as much as!) what we are prepared for at a given moment and what we need most.

The method of systemic constellations is evolving. There are changes in the manner they are conducted (for example group constellations, individual, silent, constellations of intentions, with the use of objects, figurines, internal images constellations). They also access various spheres of life, from personal matters through health, work, money to companies, organisations and social issues. Nevertheless, the basics of constellations remain unchanged – revelation of systemic disorders and entanglements, an attitude of the facilitator lacking own presumptions and judgments, readiness of the Client to acknowledge a wider perspective. 

I like to believe that ultimately, at a deep level, constellations aim to unlock the flow of love and life force in our lives and all family systems.

Ustawienia systemowe i psychobiologia zmieniają życie na lepsze...
Ustawienia systemowe i psychobiologia zmieniają życie na lepsze...